When you first think about surrogacy, it's hard to imagine everything it'll entail for you and your future child. You're embarking on a long journey with your surrogate, and possibly an egg donor too. A lot can happen along the way. The journey does not always go to plan. Various feelings may arise or change. This is the case for anyone involved in surrogacy. You need to prepare for this together.
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The intended parents, surrogate and possible egg donor have a lot of shared concerns to deal with. Your bond won't end with the birth of a baby. Each of you will play a role in the future child's story. A story that's important to the child's identity and attachment.
Good preparation helps a surrogacy process run smoothly. A specialised surrogacy counsellor ensures that you're as well prepared as possible. They can
Provide you with information about the consequences of surrogacy for
Your future child
The intended parents and family
The surrogate and her family
The egg donor, if there is one, and her family
Guide the conversations you need to have with one another
Guide the decisions you need to make
Even after the preparatory stage, counsellors with the right expertise can guide you during your surrogacy process. Especially, if it doesn't turn out the way you expect. It's easier if you already know the counsellor from the preparatory stages.
If you require medical treatment prior to the start of your surrogacy process, you will need to see a counsellor for guidance and screening. They'll look at everything with you and provide advice and guidance at every step of the way. You'll need several sessions for this. It typically looks like this:
One or more sessions with the counsellor and intended parents.
One or more sessions with the counsellor, surrogate and her partner.
Possibly, one or more sessions with the donor and her partner.
One or more joint sessions with the intended parents and surrogate parents, possibly with the donor too.
Without a hospital
Even if you don't need a clinic because the surrogate is able and willing to get pregnant from her own egg, sessions with a counsellor remain just as important.
And if you encounter issues at a later point, during or after the pregnancy, it's easier to address your concerns with a counsellor you already know.
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